If only cats really had 9 lives.
Hi!
I spent some time grappling with mortality the past week. Not triggered by any human, but our pets. Family to us nonetheless.
My wife's cat passed away two days ago. He had a good long life of over 18 years. Even then, the final leg is a difficult and sad time to deal with. In the same week, Yuzu was warded for failing kidneys, not sure how long more she would have left. Being only 9 years old, I still am not mentally prepared that she might be leaving me quite soon.
I also find myself fearing death more than ever now that I am a parent. There is so much of Joy's life ahead I want to be there to accompany her through. It scares me to think that, with how fragile our existence is, this can be taken away at any time.
Death is both scary and saddening, no preparation can change this. Worse still when it is unexpected. All I can do is to make sure that I have as little regrets as possible. A priest once told me - true long term thinking is not about preparing for your old age, or building your career, it is to prepare for death. Death is the only certainty. If today were the last day, am I ready?
Likewise, we never know when it might be the last day for those around us. Having moved out to my own place, not bringing Yuzu with me has been a constant cloud over my head. I am glad she has a great home with my parents, but wish I could have spent more time with her.
As I grow older, more and more I realise the importance of spending quality time with those important to me whenever I get the opportunity. I don't want to have stupidly missed the chance to have been there for my closest friends and family because I was chasing some other goal, or simply did not want to put in the effort. Fancy venues or exciting activities are irrelevant with the wrong crowd, better to have a simple meal with the right people.
In the midst of a trying week, I am glad I managed to have a good dinner with my closest friends. I probably don't say this enough, but your company is always most treasured.
*Credit to our wedding photographers - Sam and TIng, who captured these photos of our cats on our wedding day, helping us keep their memories immortal.
Have a great week ahead!
James
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